Wohoo! I am now able to post from my iPod. It is the little things that make me happy. Another thing to make me happy is that it is a three day weekend and my birthday is on Monday, Labor Day. One of these days I am going to have to check and see if I was born on Labor Day. That would be amusing to me.
Had my appointment with Dr. W on Thursday. Sydney is still happy right where she is. So I am most likely in for a wait. And I am going to take advantage of it. I ordered and downloaded some hipnobabies mp3s. Two are for VBAC moms and one is for come out baby. I figure it can't hurt to try. They do relax you. I listened to one last night and relaxed so much I fell asleep!
This weekend I am going to be getting things all set up for her. We have the basics already. I just want to set up some more diaper change stations and get all her diapers ready. And I need to wash her wipes. All of her clothing is washed. There are still a few things on the way from great grandma. And the car seats are set up in my car. Now my husband needs to get his done!
I also wonder if the full moon will do anything for her or if she isn't a fan of tales like that.
And I have her coming home outfit. It is so cute! I am just worried that it might be too small for her. We will just have to see. I do have a backup outfit ready for her just in case. So things could get interesting! So all baby come soon vibes are welcome ;)
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Almost 38 weeks...WHAT?!?!?
It has been way too long since I have posted an update. And now for a little funny. I got on here to see when my last post was. I knew I had gotten as far as a title on one. Guess what the title was? "Almost 34 weeks! WHAT?!?!?!?" So yeah...I tried to stay on top of things and failed! I am in total sock at this point.
So what has been going on. I have been keeping my weight in check. I started this pregnancy with about 10 more pounds than I had at the start of Kenneth's pregnancy. The wonderful part is, I am still around 30 pounds away from my ending weight with Kenneth's pregnancy. The scary part is, I still have 2-3 weeks to keep this in check! And I still think it was the last few weeks with Kenneth that I gained all that weight. Granted, I saw that pregnancy as a free pass to eat whatever I wanted and as much as I wanted. I am at least a little wiser this time around. Granted, with the amount of food I consumed today you wouldn't think so. But I had two salads...and I will not speak of the rest ;)
What else, I had my 37 week check up with Dr. W on Thursday. Sydney is still up high, -3, and no effacement or dilation yet. She is head down though. So I started up the evening primrose oil last week and my husband is keeping up on his end of the deal so to speak! It will be interesting to see what, if any progress she has made in the last week. I need to start walking again. It is just that my pelvis tends to feel like it is going to rip apart if I walk too much. But I need to do it. And my strep (GBS?) test was negative! So no IV or anything for me! So excited about that. I gave him a very simple birth plan with three things on it. No IV or hep lock, no pit after birth, and no clamping/cutting of the cord until it stops pulsing. And he is just fine with all of that. Things are going to be so different!
And I met with my doula, M, last weekend. She went over more things with me. She is really great and I can't wait to have her there to help my husband and I through this. I just can't say enough about her and yet I am at a loss for words.
Hospital bag is more or less packed. I have a change of clothing for me, a change of clothing for Sydney (in case her outfit doesn't get here in time), some crackers, Gatorade, a pen, and a note book. I just don't feel like bringing a ton of crap. It is all in my husbands car already. We just have to remember the camera and maybe some flip flops for me.
All of Sydney's clothing has been washed. Most of her diapers have been washed. We have had dryer issues for a while. It turns out it is the duct that vents the dryer. We are going to get a new metal one on the 1st. So then I will be able to do laundry at home. We have been going over to the in-laws. It has been really nice though. I just wish I could go over there and spend some time without all the laundry for once.
And now I am getting to tired to think. I feel like there was so much more I wanted to say. I am really excited about this birth. I just need to trust in my body!
So what has been going on. I have been keeping my weight in check. I started this pregnancy with about 10 more pounds than I had at the start of Kenneth's pregnancy. The wonderful part is, I am still around 30 pounds away from my ending weight with Kenneth's pregnancy. The scary part is, I still have 2-3 weeks to keep this in check! And I still think it was the last few weeks with Kenneth that I gained all that weight. Granted, I saw that pregnancy as a free pass to eat whatever I wanted and as much as I wanted. I am at least a little wiser this time around. Granted, with the amount of food I consumed today you wouldn't think so. But I had two salads...and I will not speak of the rest ;)
What else, I had my 37 week check up with Dr. W on Thursday. Sydney is still up high, -3, and no effacement or dilation yet. She is head down though. So I started up the evening primrose oil last week and my husband is keeping up on his end of the deal so to speak! It will be interesting to see what, if any progress she has made in the last week. I need to start walking again. It is just that my pelvis tends to feel like it is going to rip apart if I walk too much. But I need to do it. And my strep (GBS?) test was negative! So no IV or anything for me! So excited about that. I gave him a very simple birth plan with three things on it. No IV or hep lock, no pit after birth, and no clamping/cutting of the cord until it stops pulsing. And he is just fine with all of that. Things are going to be so different!
And I met with my doula, M, last weekend. She went over more things with me. She is really great and I can't wait to have her there to help my husband and I through this. I just can't say enough about her and yet I am at a loss for words.
Hospital bag is more or less packed. I have a change of clothing for me, a change of clothing for Sydney (in case her outfit doesn't get here in time), some crackers, Gatorade, a pen, and a note book. I just don't feel like bringing a ton of crap. It is all in my husbands car already. We just have to remember the camera and maybe some flip flops for me.
All of Sydney's clothing has been washed. Most of her diapers have been washed. We have had dryer issues for a while. It turns out it is the duct that vents the dryer. We are going to get a new metal one on the 1st. So then I will be able to do laundry at home. We have been going over to the in-laws. It has been really nice though. I just wish I could go over there and spend some time without all the laundry for once.
And now I am getting to tired to think. I feel like there was so much more I wanted to say. I am really excited about this birth. I just need to trust in my body!
Monday, July 5, 2010
Feeling REFRESHED!
Life has been really busy. I haven't been able to do as many updates as I wanted to. I thought my blog needed a little face lift. I feel like the old one looked a little glum. And glum is not what I want to think about when thinking about breastfeeding and my plan for a VBAC! I feel refreshed and I hope that is what the colors will show!
Updates... We found out that we are going to have a GIRL! That really scares me. I was scared of a boy. And now that I have one, I feel like I know what I am doing. So now I have to figure everything out all over again. EEK! She is healthy and seems to be right on track. Only 10 weeks and 1 day until her due date. We plan to name her Sydney. I have always loved the name.
The doula referral I was given seems to be a perfect fit. Her and I seem to get along great and see eye to eye. She has been so helpful. She really knows how to reassure me and help me to trust my body. I look forward to working with her more as I get closer to 36 weeks.
It really feels like this pregnancy is going a little too fast. It seems like once you have one child, life is forever on fast forward. I just want to keep up and not miss a thing!
Updates... We found out that we are going to have a GIRL! That really scares me. I was scared of a boy. And now that I have one, I feel like I know what I am doing. So now I have to figure everything out all over again. EEK! She is healthy and seems to be right on track. Only 10 weeks and 1 day until her due date. We plan to name her Sydney. I have always loved the name.
The doula referral I was given seems to be a perfect fit. Her and I seem to get along great and see eye to eye. She has been so helpful. She really knows how to reassure me and help me to trust my body. I look forward to working with her more as I get closer to 36 weeks.
It really feels like this pregnancy is going a little too fast. It seems like once you have one child, life is forever on fast forward. I just want to keep up and not miss a thing!
Monday, May 10, 2010
Hurt and Feeling Alone
I got an e-mail from the woman that was going to be my doula this Saturday. I didn't hop onto the computer until this morning. She informed me that she has decided not to take on a second client her first month back after her child will be a few months old. She typically only takes 3 clients a month. She was going to take 2 her first month back in September. Her and her husband think it would be better for her to take one, as of this weekend.
I am CRUSHED! It seems like I have to take one big hit to my birthing plans each month. I have until September. I don't think I can take any more hits like this. I feel like everything is falling apart and like I am out of control.
She offered to send me a list of doulas. I have already looked into everyone in the area. I told her to send me the list just in case. She was the only one I liked from the list. I am thinking that a doula is not going to happen for us this birth. I don't have the desire to look for another one right now. I just can't handle another rejection right now. Even though the longer I wait, the more likely there will not be any opening. I am 22 weeks along. What good doula isn't going to be filled right now anyway? That is the way I feel right now.
I also feel like I paid for the natural child birth class I am in was for nothing. I have read the books. I know the information. I was only there to get to know her better so that I would feel better about her being my doula. There are still 2 classes left. I can't bring myself to go to them. I just can't do that to myself or my son. He cried every night I went to class. I can't take that for nothing.
My plan now is to make my husband be my birth coach. He has less than 20 weeks to be HELPFUL ;) on the day I give birth. He said he would learn whatever I wanted him to. I haven't talked to him on the phone yet. I know as soon as I say the words and hear them that I will cry. I almost went home sick so I could have a nice cry. That is how hurt I feel by this.
I didn't really say much to the woman that was going to be my doula. I don't want her to feel bad about doing what she thinks is best for her family. I just wish I had known about this back in March.
I am CRUSHED! It seems like I have to take one big hit to my birthing plans each month. I have until September. I don't think I can take any more hits like this. I feel like everything is falling apart and like I am out of control.
She offered to send me a list of doulas. I have already looked into everyone in the area. I told her to send me the list just in case. She was the only one I liked from the list. I am thinking that a doula is not going to happen for us this birth. I don't have the desire to look for another one right now. I just can't handle another rejection right now. Even though the longer I wait, the more likely there will not be any opening. I am 22 weeks along. What good doula isn't going to be filled right now anyway? That is the way I feel right now.
I also feel like I paid for the natural child birth class I am in was for nothing. I have read the books. I know the information. I was only there to get to know her better so that I would feel better about her being my doula. There are still 2 classes left. I can't bring myself to go to them. I just can't do that to myself or my son. He cried every night I went to class. I can't take that for nothing.
My plan now is to make my husband be my birth coach. He has less than 20 weeks to be HELPFUL ;) on the day I give birth. He said he would learn whatever I wanted him to. I haven't talked to him on the phone yet. I know as soon as I say the words and hear them that I will cry. I almost went home sick so I could have a nice cry. That is how hurt I feel by this.
I didn't really say much to the woman that was going to be my doula. I don't want her to feel bad about doing what she thinks is best for her family. I just wish I had known about this back in March.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
CRUSHED: Home birth is out thanks to insurance
I am completely crushed right now! In one day I went from thinking that I was finally going to get my home water birth to despising my insurance that has never let me down until this year!
I talked with my husband more about a home birth. He has never been serious about the talk until today. So I never knew how he really felt about it due to all of the jokes. Today he told me as long as it is safe, he is all for it. That he could do without sleeping in the hospital chairs. I of course let it all go to my head. I was planning everything out. Trying to think what room would be best to birth in. My mind was going wild with the possibilities. This is something that I have always dreamed of and never thought would happen due to support.
I was celebrating too soon though. The only way we could swing it is if insurance would cover most of it. For a hospital birth, I only need to pay $300 and insurance will cover everything else. And you want to know what they will cover for a home birth... NOTHING! I have been crying for the last hour because of wonderful Southern Health.
Thanks for crushing my dreams!
I need to move on though and try to stay positive. I need to make the best of what I do have. Can I just win a small Virginia lotto :/
I talked with my husband more about a home birth. He has never been serious about the talk until today. So I never knew how he really felt about it due to all of the jokes. Today he told me as long as it is safe, he is all for it. That he could do without sleeping in the hospital chairs. I of course let it all go to my head. I was planning everything out. Trying to think what room would be best to birth in. My mind was going wild with the possibilities. This is something that I have always dreamed of and never thought would happen due to support.
I was celebrating too soon though. The only way we could swing it is if insurance would cover most of it. For a hospital birth, I only need to pay $300 and insurance will cover everything else. And you want to know what they will cover for a home birth... NOTHING! I have been crying for the last hour because of wonderful Southern Health.
Thanks for crushing my dreams!
I need to move on though and try to stay positive. I need to make the best of what I do have. Can I just win a small Virginia lotto :/
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
The Business of Being Born
I loved this documentary! I really wish that I had watched it before I had Kenneth. It has really opened my eyes. It really reaffirmed what I thought about intervention. And just in case "someone" isn't the only one that doesn't know what I mean by intervention, I will explain. Intervention, in terms of child birth, is anything that is not involved with natural child birth. They can be as slight as continuous fetal heartbeat monitoring. This was the first thing they hooked up to me with Kenneth. Hooking up the IV and/or hep lock. In my case I had an IV in one arm and a hep lock in the other. This makes it easier for the doctors and nurses to give you anything they please. Breaking your water so that they can attach an internal monitor to your baby. Then their are drugs used to induce, such as pitocin. This drug makes your contractions longer and stronger. Pain killers that can be given through an IV. It is already there and so it makes it so easy for you to say yes when asked. An epidural or spinal plug that is there to lessen the pain you feel from the waist down. And then the most invasive intervention, a cesarean section. These are just the ones that were used in my case, there are others.
Now don't get me wrong, I think there is a place for all of this. I do think there are some really great OBGYNs out there. I just think that there is a lack of understanding of how things should work for birth. A woman's body was made to withstand childbirth. We need to trust in our body. Know that our body will work with our baby. Know that the best and safest way to deliver a baby is vaginally. But also know that there is a small fraction that does need a section when things don't work the way they should. And we shouldn't feel like we failed no matter what. All we can do it provide the most comfortable birthing environment that we can and make informed choices about our birth to insure a safe mom and baby.
I don't think a home birth will work out for us. I still want to talk with the midwives that I would like to use if we change our mind. I want to know that I have options. I am not sure I would feel comfortable at home for many reasons. I don't think I would get all the support I am going to need to have the birth experience my baby and I deserve.
And an update on my doula search and a more understanding hospital and OBGYN. The only midwife that I can find that is covered by insurance is booked solid. So I am going after the OBGYN she works with. My doula (YES, I got the one I really wanted) is urging me to make sure I go with someone that I will be comfortable with and has similar beliefs about birth. Right now I am at an OBGYN practice. I think there is at least one of them that sees eye to eye with me. But I don't know for sure that he would be the one in the hospital. Also, I just don't feel warm and fuzzy about the hospital I delivered Kenneth at. And yes, I work there in a non-medical way. It is one of the reasons why I went with them. I also picked them since they have a NICU. If I go with the other hospital and NICU is needed, the baby will be transfered without me. But everything else told me to go with the other hospital. So I am going with my gut. And these hospitals are right down the street from each other. Therefore I still feel like the baby is safe no matter what happens. I am waiting for a call back to hopefully be set up as a new patient with Dr. W. I am so excited. I am feeling so optimistic about this right now.
An update on my to do list (that has changed some):
DONE:
1. Started my stash of cloth diapers for this new little one. Well...I have worked out trades and they are being worked on with a little help!
2. Find a doula. I am super excited about this. We still need to iron things out, but my spot is reserved.
3. Watched The Business of Being Born. Wish I had listened to my friends and watched this before Kenneth.
4. I did find out about the LLL meetings. I haven't been able to attend them yet due to weather and being sick. I will get there though!
5. I have picked out a few books I want to read. I just need to make it happen now.
6. I am signed up for the child birth class offered by my doula. They start next Wednesday and there are 6 of them. I just hope my husband is going to be able to make them all. He said he will try to make the first one. I hope to bring his mother along when he can't make it.
NEED TO DO:
1. I need to get an appointment with Dr. W. Please let him take me on as a new patient!
2. Read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth...again.
3. Read Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. Maybe come up with a short version for my husband. I have ordered the book and should have it on Friday!
4. Read The Silent Knife. I have been meaning to for a while now.
5. Read The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth. It has been on the top of my list for a while.
6. Set up a meeting with the midwives.
7. Set up a meeting with my doula once I have talked with Dr. W or the midwives.
8. Set up a tour of the new hospital.
9. There are a few breastfeeding books that I want to read for the first time and again as well. I really want to make this work!
And now I must go find something to eat that is more nutritious than Easter candy!
Now don't get me wrong, I think there is a place for all of this. I do think there are some really great OBGYNs out there. I just think that there is a lack of understanding of how things should work for birth. A woman's body was made to withstand childbirth. We need to trust in our body. Know that our body will work with our baby. Know that the best and safest way to deliver a baby is vaginally. But also know that there is a small fraction that does need a section when things don't work the way they should. And we shouldn't feel like we failed no matter what. All we can do it provide the most comfortable birthing environment that we can and make informed choices about our birth to insure a safe mom and baby.
I don't think a home birth will work out for us. I still want to talk with the midwives that I would like to use if we change our mind. I want to know that I have options. I am not sure I would feel comfortable at home for many reasons. I don't think I would get all the support I am going to need to have the birth experience my baby and I deserve.
And an update on my doula search and a more understanding hospital and OBGYN. The only midwife that I can find that is covered by insurance is booked solid. So I am going after the OBGYN she works with. My doula (YES, I got the one I really wanted) is urging me to make sure I go with someone that I will be comfortable with and has similar beliefs about birth. Right now I am at an OBGYN practice. I think there is at least one of them that sees eye to eye with me. But I don't know for sure that he would be the one in the hospital. Also, I just don't feel warm and fuzzy about the hospital I delivered Kenneth at. And yes, I work there in a non-medical way. It is one of the reasons why I went with them. I also picked them since they have a NICU. If I go with the other hospital and NICU is needed, the baby will be transfered without me. But everything else told me to go with the other hospital. So I am going with my gut. And these hospitals are right down the street from each other. Therefore I still feel like the baby is safe no matter what happens. I am waiting for a call back to hopefully be set up as a new patient with Dr. W. I am so excited. I am feeling so optimistic about this right now.
An update on my to do list (that has changed some):
DONE:
1. Started my stash of cloth diapers for this new little one. Well...I have worked out trades and they are being worked on with a little help!
2. Find a doula. I am super excited about this. We still need to iron things out, but my spot is reserved.
3. Watched The Business of Being Born. Wish I had listened to my friends and watched this before Kenneth.
4. I did find out about the LLL meetings. I haven't been able to attend them yet due to weather and being sick. I will get there though!
5. I have picked out a few books I want to read. I just need to make it happen now.
6. I am signed up for the child birth class offered by my doula. They start next Wednesday and there are 6 of them. I just hope my husband is going to be able to make them all. He said he will try to make the first one. I hope to bring his mother along when he can't make it.
NEED TO DO:
1. I need to get an appointment with Dr. W. Please let him take me on as a new patient!
2. Read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth...again.
3. Read Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. Maybe come up with a short version for my husband. I have ordered the book and should have it on Friday!
4. Read The Silent Knife. I have been meaning to for a while now.
5. Read The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth. It has been on the top of my list for a while.
6. Set up a meeting with the midwives.
7. Set up a meeting with my doula once I have talked with Dr. W or the midwives.
8. Set up a tour of the new hospital.
9. There are a few breastfeeding books that I want to read for the first time and again as well. I really want to make this work!
And now I must go find something to eat that is more nutritious than Easter candy!
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Is a home birth in our future?
I am now 17 weeks along. I have all kinds of questions going through my head. I really want to have a VBAC. I think a natural birth will also help with breastfeeding. I want as little intervention as possible. And the more I think about, the more I am not sure a hospital birth is right for me.
We are only about 5-10 minutes from the hospital if there is no traffic. I really wish there was a birth center here in Charlottesville. I believe there was at one time. So my only real options are home or hospital. If I am in the hospital, I want to make sure I have a doula I trust. I had the perfect one picked out. She is most likely full in September though. She is waiting on someone to get their contract in. I really hope they don't so that I can get her last spot. She seems wonderful. I will be starting in her child birth class next Wednesday. I believe it is going to be held at the midwife office that I am looking at if I do go with a home birth.
I really started to think hard about a home birth at my last OBGYN appointment last Wednesday. The doctor I was seeing that time is the same one that I saw after my section. And as soon as he walked in my heart started to race and not in a good way. It really made me freak out. It brought back bad memories of what happened with Kenneth. He was born healthy and I am so thankful for that. I just wish that everyone, including myself, had trusted my body a little more.
The only thing that is holding me back is money. A hospital birth will cost me $300. If I get the doula I want, it will be another $500. A home birth will cost me at least $3000. I don't think my insurance will cover any of it. So I might try to sell off some of the things we have in the house to fund this. A little Spring cleaning!
I still really need to talk it over with my husband and see where we stand. I think our family will be against it all the way. And so I am just worried. I just want things to work out for the best. And I just don't know what is best right now.
We are only about 5-10 minutes from the hospital if there is no traffic. I really wish there was a birth center here in Charlottesville. I believe there was at one time. So my only real options are home or hospital. If I am in the hospital, I want to make sure I have a doula I trust. I had the perfect one picked out. She is most likely full in September though. She is waiting on someone to get their contract in. I really hope they don't so that I can get her last spot. She seems wonderful. I will be starting in her child birth class next Wednesday. I believe it is going to be held at the midwife office that I am looking at if I do go with a home birth.
I really started to think hard about a home birth at my last OBGYN appointment last Wednesday. The doctor I was seeing that time is the same one that I saw after my section. And as soon as he walked in my heart started to race and not in a good way. It really made me freak out. It brought back bad memories of what happened with Kenneth. He was born healthy and I am so thankful for that. I just wish that everyone, including myself, had trusted my body a little more.
The only thing that is holding me back is money. A hospital birth will cost me $300. If I get the doula I want, it will be another $500. A home birth will cost me at least $3000. I don't think my insurance will cover any of it. So I might try to sell off some of the things we have in the house to fund this. A little Spring cleaning!
I still really need to talk it over with my husband and see where we stand. I think our family will be against it all the way. And so I am just worried. I just want things to work out for the best. And I just don't know what is best right now.
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